I’m not usually one for new year’s resolutions. Parenting resolutions on the other hand are something I seem to constantly address throughout the year. This year, I aim to make life a little more sane for our household. Here’s my shortlist:
Parenting Resolutions You Can Actually Keep
1. Be present:
The days are long but the years are short. I am someone who rushes through my day – anticipating the next step in the daily routine, always looking ahead and rarely taking time to be relish the moment when I am in it. It’s one of my biggest personal challenges as a mom. This year I want to enjoy each moment I have to spend with my son. I want to look back ten years from now and know I have created lasting memories side by side.
2. Let it go:
This resolution brings to mind the old serenity prayer my grandmother taught me many moons ago: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Wise words. Wise words indeed. There are many things in this life I am not in control of. For all of those things I cannot change, I have to learn to let go and focus on the things I can influence for the better.
3. Think Positive:
There have been a lot of little things this year that have dampened my spirits. It’s often not the big things in life but all the little stressors in a day that leave me feeling defeated and never good enough as a mom. Helen Keller once wrote: “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” I can achieve much more by focusing on what I can and have accomplished each day instead of the things I did not.
4. Ask for What I Need and Be Specific:
This is a big one – especially where my husband is concerned. As much as I wish he was sometimes, he is not a mind-reader. If I need a break because I am overwhelmed with mommy duty or household chores or work– all I need to do is say so and then specifically state what will make it better. (Readers note: It does not help the situation to just complain in the hopes that he will pick up the slack.) If I need help with laundry I will ask him to do a load. If I need to get out of the house on my own I will ask him to watch C so I can do so. Being a martyr doesn’t help anyone. Making sure everyone’s needs are met makes for a healthier family overall.
5. Focus on What Brings Me Joy
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