Is parenting worthwhile? As someone who has survived a severe form of postpartum depression – postpartum psychosis, I can honestly tell you that I live my life as a parent with a deep sense of appreciation for the craft of motherhood. When you’ve reached the point on the verge of losing everything, it never entirely leaves your consciousness. It makes me extremely grateful for the place we’re at now as a family. If you missed my story you can read it here.
1. When my son says “I love you mommy” and I know he’s not just saying it – he means it with the depths of his little soul. He looks at me adoringly and plants a big wet one on me. Gets me every time.
2. When I pick him up from daycare and he comes running into my arms, ecstatic to see me and tell me all about his day. He can barely catch his breath he needs to spill all of the day’s events right then and there.
3. Reading him a bedtime story at night is such a treat. My husband often take this job but when he’s away and mommy gets a turn I relish in his warm little body snuggled up beside mine as I read to him and he interjects with sound effects and the parts he’s memorized.
4. When he’s kind to others. It makes me feel like I’m doing something right when he’s so concerned with the feelings of others and is truly empathetic to their hurt. He is already a great friend and his big heart makes me a proud mama.
5. Seeing him with his grandparents. There is something about the special bond between a little boy and his grandparents. My son is lucky enough to have 4 sets of grandparents: my mom and stepdad, my dad and stepmom, my husband’s dad, and my husband’s mom and stepdad. This little guy couldn’t be more loved.
6. The unabated excitement of a preschooler. I love seeing his eyes almost pop out of his head at even the smallest bit of news. We’re going to the park? AMAZING! You got me a 50 cent candy? DELIGHTFUL! The outside light bulb color is now red! MIND = BLOWN!
7. Seeing my little playing man with his dad is about the best thing I can imagine (and not just because it actually gives me a moment to sit down myself). I love the way they play that is so different from the interactions C has with me. Their play is loud and tumbling. C loves it and I just love taking it all in.
8. When he busts out in a fit of giggles I just can’t help but join in. His laugh warms my heart from the inside out. It’s so pure and innocent. It’s not for show. It’s pure delight erupting from his joyful spirit.
9. Speaking of laughter, his sense of humor is so on par with my own. Slapstick comedy gets him every time. His perfectly timed quips often bring down the house. Once when my dad was visiting he was talking to C about taking him fishing. C says, “But grandpa I don’t have a fishing rod!” My dad responded, “Oh I have a big fishing rod!” Without missing a beat, C says, “That’s what she said.” Oh boy….
10. The every day. All the things I dreamed about before I had a child are the moments that make parenting worth it to me. The evening walks, the playing at the park, the Sunday drives, the late night snuggles – this is my happy place.
I can barely remember what life was like before I became a parent. Sometimes I try especially hard to remember what I did with all my money before I had to pay for daycare (!). I can no longer picture my life without him, and I couldn’t be more grateful for the joy I’ve experienced since I’ve become a mom. Is parenthood worthwhile? Without a doubt.
The Good Enuf Mommy
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