There exists a society of women you probably never knew existed before you became a parent. There are a few requirements to join, but membership perks include the opportunity to make true lifelong friendships, a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear, and a place to vent your ever-mounting frustrations with anything related to parenthood.
It’s the mom club.
Membership requirements include a child in your care, a non-judgmental attitude, and a sympathetic disposition toward a fellow member’s difficulties meeting the requirements of parenthood.
Membership perks include: access to members-only social functions, an unlimited supply of wine, and a personal guided tour of local parks, malls, and restaurants.
Members will be excommunicated if they commit any of the following infractions:
1. Dispensing unwanted/unwarranted advice: The first infraction will be met with a warning glance and a quick change of subject. Future infractions will result in removal from the mom club.
2. Failure to help clean up the catastrophic disaster your children left at a fellow member’s place of residence.
3. Talking only about your own child/children and forgetting on several occasions to ask about any other member’s spawn.
4. Repeated last-minute cancellations of playdates: Members understand that life with children is nothing if not unpredictable, however repeated cancellations establishing a pattern of behavior that leaves the other member in the lurch will not be tolerated.
As a mom club member, you will have the ability to flash your mom card in almost any social situation to break the ice. Oh! You’re a mom? Me too! Cue instant spontaneous conversation about nap schedules and sleepless nights, current car seat regulations, and the baffling obsession with Sophie the giraffe. With very little effort you will be accepted into the inner circle of other moms walking through the trenches of parenthood right along with you.
Members inherently understand exactly what you’re going through: the emotional rollercoaster, the messes, the lack of sleep, the boredom, and the “what was I thinking?”
They will also be the first to celebrate with you when your child utters their first word, takes their first step, and graduates from preschool.
They will understand your tears as you drop them off at daycare for the first time. They will help you see the humor the first time your child poops in the bath. (Yes you read that right – the first time). They will watch your one child while you rush the other to the hospital, and bring you a meal when it’s all just too much to bear.
They will understand the monotony of repeating the same routines day in and day out with little to no end in sight and help to break you out of your funk by inviting you along for a much-needed mom’s night out.
Best of all – they will ‘get it.’
You will feel accepted, loved and supported through every parenting dilemma that could possibly and will actually arise. You are in this club for life. Welcome!
The Good Enuf Mommy
Tiffany Austin is a mom, a wife, writer, and educator living in Calgary, AB, Canada. Tired of never feeling “good enough” as a new mom, she began a blog to encourage other moms to feel confident and empowered in their own decisions. Her blog, The Good Enuf Mommy, includes everything from helpful parenting advice to product recommendations aimed at making the lives of moms just a little bit easier. Show her some love on Facebook and Twitter and if you like what you see sign up for her monthly newsletter!
Sorry that you do not get the credit you deserve these days. I don’t know how somewhere along the way we’ve lost sight of the significant and unique role you play in our children’s lives. I’m sorry that so often your role is nothing more than the punch line of a joke, diminishing all that you really do for us and our families.