You know the drill…you’re frantically preparing for an upcoming event, making the guest list, planning and prepping all of the food, putting out table settings, ensuring you have enough party favors… and you have a handful of “Maybe” RSVPs or even worse – guests who have not bothered to RSVP at all.
Who is actually going to show up? Who will cancel at the last minute? Should you plan for 5 people? 20 people? What if there is not enough food? What if you have so much leftover food you’ll have to resort to going door to door to pawn the rest off on neighbors?
What ever happened to RSVP etiquette?
When did it become okay to not let your host know decisively whether you will grace them with your presence? You can’t be bothered to a) Say YES or NO or b) respond at all? And thank you Facebook for providing the MAYBE option! (*shudder), allowing all of the indecisive people on the planet an out just in case they don’t feel like leaving their house that day or something better comes along to occupy their time.
You know what your MAYBE says to me? A maybe says:
I’m 99% sure I’m not coming but I reserve the right to show up at the last minute without notice.
I’ll wait and see if anything better comes along.
Your event is not high on my priority list.
Are we even friends?
I don’t want to hurt your feelings but I have no intention of attending.
I don’t want to come but I don’t want to say no.
My parents never taught me manners.
So here is my pledge to you, all you MAYBE and non-responders, if you can’t be bothered to RSVP properly to an event I have put in time, effort, money and care to prepare, I can’t be bothered to continue to invite you.
You’re either in or you’re out. There was a time when a commitment to a social engagement meant something. It’s time to bring back conclusive RSVPs. Let’s begin a #decisiveRSVP revolution!
Who’s with me?
The Good Enuf Mommy
Tiffany Austin is a mom, a wife, writer, and educator living in Calgary, AB, Canada. Tired of never feeling “good enough” as a new mom, she began a blog to encourage other moms to feel confident and empowered in their own decisions. Her blog, The Good Enuf Mommy, includes everything from helpful parenting advice to product recommendations aimed at making the lives of moms just a little bit easier. Show her some love on Facebook and Twitter.