Recently I was reading Rainbow Rowell’s newest book Landline, where the main character has the unique ability to talk to her husband of 1998 through a landline at her mom’s house. It is through this phone that she finds a gateway to the person he was, who she used to be, and who they have become – together.
On the other hand, there are great life lessons that have come from the hardship. We have learned what it’s like to love someone despite their faults and to come to terms with our own shortcomings along the way. We have learned that love is more than a feeling. It is a choice. Every day, it’s a choice.
Together, we have confronted the deepest fear, sadness and anger within the core of who we are. We have learned what makes us tick and that we have to work on ourselves instead of trying to “fix” our partner because passing the buck is really just a reflection of what is going on within our own soul. We’ve learned that marriage isn’t perfect but it is worth the effort.
Would I go back and try to reconnect to the man of 2006? Nope – I think I’ll stick with the one I’ve got now. It’s been a lot of work for both of us to get to this place – and I’m not looking back now.
The Good Enuf Mommy
**This is part of our February #TAKETIME link up. Click to add your link to our theme Love is in the Air!
Sleep divided up into two-three hour increments does crazy things to your psyche. The patient, loving, and considerate spouse you once fell in love with is now basically a raging hormonal being that will rip your head off in one bite if you ask her what she did all day with “all her free time” before she breaks down into uncontrollable sobs. Ah- love.