To the dads in our life,
Sorry that you do not get the credit you deserve these days. I don’t know how somewhere along the way we’ve lost sight of the significant and unique role you play in our children’s lives. I’m sorry that so often your role is nothing more than the punch line of a joke, diminishing all that you really do for us and our families.
It’s been a slippery slope for us moms. I think somehow in the quest to build ourselves up we have in many ways pushed you down. It’s now okay to openly mock you in our social circles about your lack of help or total oblivion over basic baby care that we haven’t fully involved you in in the first place. We have sacrificed your confidence for our own self-esteem.
So dads, I’d like to thank you. Thank you for evolving into a ‘modern dad’ who is fully involved with the children, cooks a meal even every now and then and also helps out around the house. Thank you for supporting us moms in a way that only you are able. Thank you for balancing your work schedule with our family needs as well. It’s not perfect, though nothing is when it comes to parenting. (We know…believe us).
Your role is essential to our family. Our children need their dad, just like they need their mom; each role equally significant and special in its own way. I’m sorry for all the times I’ve insisted you do it my way. I should have let you find your own way. You see, the secret, I’ve come to realize, is not for dads to just be like moms in male form. It’s being the dad, whatever that looks like for you. I may not always understand it, but I am so glad to say I can now stand back and admire it.
I love the carefree way you approach parenthood as if it’s a fun game that you’re just making up along the way. I love how the values that you stand by are deeply ingrained and unwavering. I love the way our son looks at you and that teaching him to say yes please and no thank you are still important ideals you want to pass on.
Maya Angelou said, “If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” Thank you dads. I vow to stop complaining about what you’re not and start spreading the celebration of who you are. You are good enough too.
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